Your Child’s Programmed Mind

What is the responsibility of a parent or care giver in the forming of a child mind?  We are all aware that a person's life including his perceptions are formed through his environment. The first 6 years of life are responsible for this formation. How do parents/care givers contribute to the forming of the mind and how do they do this?   95 –99% of your actions are controlled by the Subconscious mind leaving only 2 – 5% of your decisions made by the conscious mind.  Obviously the formation of the Subconscious is vitally important to the development of the child. 

Let's define the Conscience and the Unconscious mind:

Your Conscience mind is the creative mind. It is your dreams and wishes. Your Conscience mind makes decisions you are aware of and take part in. With your Conscience mind you you love, you hate, you hope, you dream. When you make a conscience decision you are making a decision by thinking about it on a level you are aware of. You may make these decisions because of your subconscious mind and not know why you are making a specific decision. It is because of the programming you were dealt before the age of 6 that is programmed into your Subconscious mind.

The Subconscious mind contains the habits and programs that have been learned that you may or may not aware of. Subconscious programming might be: a fear of heights, money does not grow on trees, men are stronger than women, gravity, for some: love equals hurt, fear of abandonment, nothing bad ever happens to me, money is never an issue for me, etc. These habits and programs positive and negative were programmed into your subconscious mind by your parents before you were 6 years old, by the way you were spoken to, disciplined, loved, abused, cared for and the things you saw,heard and perceived.

“ Human biology is so dependent upon learned perceptions, that is not surprising. Evolution has provided us with a mechanism that encourages rapid learning. Brain activity and states of awareness can be measured electronically using electroencephalography (EEG). There are four fundamental states of awareness distinguished by the frequency of electromagnetic activity in the brain. The time that an individual spends in each of these EEG states is related to the patterned sequential expressed during child development” (Laibow,1999).

In the neurological development in childhood the brain does not become actively conscience until 6 years of age. The neurological development is at the lower EEG level called Theta which is imagination. This is why children mix the world of imaginary and real. To them they are the same. They are working at the lower level.

At the lowest level and the first to be experienced by a child between birth and two years of age is the Delta wave (0.5 – 4 Hz). When the child is in Delta they are in a sleep like state. Theta is called the hypnogogic trance. This trance like state allows everything that happens before birth through 6 years of age to go directly into the subconscious bypassing the conscience mind. The Conscience mind is not even working yet. At this age the brain is only downloading data. What the child observes from the parents or caregiver the brain will record as true. The behavior of the child is formed by the data that has been downloaded and this data is observed as truth. The child cannot engage in conscience mind until they have enough of the rules of the community to fit in. The first 6 years of his life he is in a programmable state. Their lives and what they are running become the child’s programs. Consequently the way you act now is 99% done subconsciously and only 1 -2% is done consciously. Theta (4-8 Hz.) waves are experienced more between two and six years of age. This is the state adults may experience when they are half awake and half asleep. In this state the child is very very creative and imaginative when they play. This is when they are playing house using clothes pin dolls and making delicious mud pies, using a broom to ride their horse when playing cowboys and why they can so easily believe in Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny..

Alpha waves (8 – 12 Hz.) begin to express around the age of 6. Around 12 years of age Beta (12- 15 Hz) waves are expressed more and more. This is the highest level of brain activity characterized as “active and focused consciousness”

I explained all the levels is to show you the path of development the brain goes through for the first 6 years. It is important for you to realize that from birth through 6 years the child is primarily in Delta and Theta, which represents a hypnogogic state. When a person is hypnotized they must lower their level of brain activity to the Delta and Theta state. This hypnotical state is the only brain activity of a child until age 6.. During this time the child's brain will be downloading all the perceptions, activity and knowledge he receives without the benefit of discrimination. Your child is 'programmed' for his adult years during this phase of development. This 'programming' is the subconscious that will run 95 – 99% of his adult life.

All this information is critical in understanding how you communicate and interact with your child. Over indulgence is as dangerous as neglect. And love is the most important thing you can do for your child. How you treat your spouse, how you treat others, how you act in a volatile situation, the compassion you show, and the moral integrity you display or lack are all recorded in your child's mind truth. These will become the foundation that will mold your child into an adult. What kind of adult are you molding?

I would like to add a personal note: Although we as adults are responsible for how we mold these precious children. When these children grow up they make their own choices and decisions. Ultimately they are responsible of their own actions whether they be positive or negative choices. Children that blame their parents for actions that are immoral or illegal are not taking responsibly for their own life. We all have the ability to make good choices regardless of our upbringing.

Nancy Hamm

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