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August 2009 - Posts

  • Vaccines: Get The Facts (Part 2)

    As an addendum to my soapbox from the previous vaccine post, I would like to add a few things. And by adding them, I realize I am toeing the line of murky waters in a current political debate. However, I think that my family has a unique perspective having been on both sides of this spectrum, and this is my opinion.

    1) My husband is a physician. He gets paid by insurance companies. He has medical school loans to pay off which rival our mortgage payments, so we are certainly comfortable, but not living the high life as one immediately thinks when they think 'physician'. We rely on Medicare, Medicaid, BCBS, Aetna, United, etc, to pay his salary. Over the past few years, the reimbursements to physicians have decreased. For example, an office visit he used to bill $75 for is now being billed at $60. That decrease trickles over to surgeries, procedures, etc.... We feel the burden of the insurance companies and government cutting the payments to the physicians.

    2) Because of the surgery our son had, we spent months and months paying off medical bills to physicians. M-O-N-T-H-S. We feel the burden of being the consumer purchasing health insurance. We have private insurance that costs about another mortgage payment each month, and it was not enough to cover the surgery with high deductibles and out of pocket expenses.

    3) In addition, the malpractice insurance physicians are required to carry is astronomically expensive. It is the reason that many parts of the country don't have enough OB-GYNs. The risk of getting sued as a medical professional is very high whether or not the suit is justified. The expense of defense against any and every type of lawsuit gets passed on in the form of high malpractice premiums. AND in addition to that, the 'jury of your peers' is not a jury of medically trained professionals. Just people like you and I, often requiring attorneys to try to simplify medical justifications to those not experienced in making those decisions. Now, certainly malpractice happens and should be litigated accordingly, but the fear of unnecessary lawsuits is very real, and very expensive to physicians. Additionally there are many expensive (often unnecessary) tests ordered so doctors can protect themselves from potential future litigation, driving up the cost of healthcare.

    4) Regarding vaccines, as long as the data linking vaccines to autism are weak, and vaccines are still strongly recommended by the AAP, it is in the patient's and physician's best interest to comply. The data supporting the safety of vaccines are much stronger. It is unfortunate that care is often determined with insurance companies in mind, but it is a reality for providers and consumers. Doctors won't get reimbursed for services not covered, and you will bear the burden of the bill. Thankfully, most pediatric vaccines are covered under routine care, and most pediatricians will tell you they are NOT a money-maker. Additionally, they are reimbursed quite poorly for routine preventive care. If it is something you are concerned about, then most offices have supporting documentation of their policies, procedures and justifications available to you. Certainly a good pediatrician will take the time to discuss options and outcomes with you, and your job as a consumer of healthcare is to find someone you are comfortable with. Someone who works with your needs, while following the guidelines. Finally, it is well-known that whatever the risk of vaccines, the risks of re-emergence of the diseases they prevent are far far greater.

    5) You should not blindly do what your doctor says. But a good physician will discuss things with you and recommend treatments in a way that educates and comforts, rather than demands and dictates. The world of medicine is a complex one, to be sure. Most doctors, however, will tell you that however complex their world, the interest and well-being of the patient is by far the most important thing....and they swear an oath to protect that notion.

    No one goes into medicine saying, "I want to be stuck in the middle of private insurance companies, pharmaceutical charges, government regulations, and patients who get their information from Wikipedia." But that is what happens, and those people who have spent 7+ years after college trying to learn how to take care of us, are victims.

  • Vaccines: Get The Facts

    I am not a doctor. I live with one. I supported one through medical school. He is smart. He is an ophthalmologist. He went to college for 4 years. He went to medical school for 4 years. He did 1 year of an internal medicine internship. He did 3 more years of training to complete his ophthalmology residency. He does Lasik and cataract surgery, operates on children, treats diabetes, and is a Board Certified MD, and Fellow of the American Academy of Ophthalmology. He loves his children. He would not do anything to harm them. I have a Master's degree in Special Education. I have taught many, many children with autism and other disabilities. I have sat with parents as they have searched and searched for answers to unlock the mysteries of their vacant children, reaching for a cause, and looking for a place to point a finger. When at age 2, they claim that their child disappeared after their vaccines. I have never read a case report of an autistic child that supported that fact. When I asked my pediatrician about that happening, she assured me that in the 40+ collective number of years of all of the physicians in their group, they have never met a child who did not show signs of delays before they were vaccinated. We vaccinate our children. We defer to the people who are trained and educated about taking care of our children's health. We realize the benefit to eradicating measles, smallpox, polio, and mumps. We have a child with a congenital heart defect. One who has had open heart surgery. It is a huge recurrent medical issue that I hope none of you ever have to deal with. We educate ourselves, we speak to people who are educated about our son's problems, like cardiologists, cardiothoracic surgeons, and pediatricians, and we make medical decisions based on medical recommendations. We would not base decisions about the health of our son's heart based on pop culture, unsupported evidence, blogs, message boards, or studies that had not been replicated and reviewed. The American Academy of Pediatrics puts out a vaccination schedule for the good and welfare of our children and the general population. Visit their website (http://www.cispimmunize.org/) for your information. Allow the experts to make the decisions. And then visit Autism Speaks, the March of Dimes, or sites like these to support families and children who are suffering.
  • I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

    The old addage about it taking a village to raise a child has certainly withstood the test of time.  But it is interesting to me how it has managed to stay afloat even in current times. 

    Women of today are self-sufficient, independent, and resourceful.  We assemble furniture from IKEA by ourselves, fix toilets, earn salaries, and back up our own computers.  We own pink screwdrivers, support charitable organizations, and haggle with car salesmen.  We cook dinner, but expect that our husband can pull it off as well.  We clean toilets, or pay someone to do it, or share the duty with our husbands. We are women, hear us roar, etc...

    Then you have a child. Then you are a MOM. You are a MOM and a WOMAN.  You do not lose one identity because you have the other.  You are strong. Your body just did tremendous work.  It made and gave birth to a human.  So you think, what's so hard about the rest of life?  If I did that, I can do it ALL!  

    You're right.  You CAN.  

    Just not now. Not for at least 6 weeks, well... more like 6 months.

    Really. You can't. I know you think you are different, but you're not. YOU NEED HELP.

    That help can be your mom, neighbor, grandma, girlfriend, lady at church, workout buddy at the JCC, it doesn't matter.  Use them all. It can be a man. It probably won't be, but it can be.   Oh, wait. hubby or partner doesn't count.  They are in just as much doo-doo as you, and are also thinking WHAT THE &^$% DID WE JUST DO?  What happened to our lives? 

    You need someone to talk to, tell you to nap, cook you a pan of lasagna, vaccuum your floors, watch the baby while you run to get milk, hell, BRING you the milk/ibuprofen/wine/diapers.  These beautiful little creatures drag you into a haze you can not imagine. I'm not referring to postpartum depression, that is a different, albeit common ballgame.  This is just the postpartum fog that seeps into your brain, makes you lose track of time, reality, and toothbrushing, and causes you to wonder what happened to the old you. The powerful, self-assured you.  

    That you, the new mom, you need your village. Any villager will do.  Having children did not change with women's lib.  It is still the same process that has been going on for hundreds of years.  The same physical and emotional culmination of womanhood.  And those ancient women knew that they needed help to make it through.  Even with the conveniences that we have, you are smart to take and ask for help.  You will be a better WOMAN and MOM because of it.

     

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