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  • What "Back To School" Means For ALL Of Us

    For Asher, Age 4, 3 mornings a week: FINALLY!!! Kids! I am so tired of the ALL MOM ALL DAY routine. She never wants to PLAY or RIDE BIKES or DO anything. All she does is cook and clean and tell me to clean up my toys. Now I can be with people my size who understand my pain. My angst. My frustration.

    For Jacob, Age 23 months, Mondays only: FINALLY! I am on my own! I don't have Asher bossing me around, and I get to be a big kid also. I get to use DOT MARKERS!! And BEAD MAZES!!! And my teacher sings! In addition, I get Mommy ALL. TO. MYSELF. While Asher is in school.

    For me: Hot, uninterrupted showers. Time to work. Time to clean. Quiet. Time to get a haircut, get an oil change, get a pap smear. Time to eat cookies all by myself. And time to miss my babies. Just a little bit.

    Posted Sep 01 2010, 02:17 PM by jmdinap with no comments
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  • What I Have Learned Living Gluten-Free for Two Weeks

    We are on day 18 of have a gluten-free (GF) child in our home.

    Jacob, age 22 months, was diagnosed with Celiac Disease after 10 months of not gaining a single ounce. It is a relief, and a burden to know what is going on. I am here to share with you what we have learned thus far.

    1) The internet is full of crap information. Go get your info from a trusted source, and not from some random message boards.

    2) I might have to buy another toaster because Jacob's GF bread can't be near out gluten-laden bread because then the gluten crumbs might contaminate it. Seriously. For real.

    3) While Whole Foods has a jazillion GF options, Trader Joe's is more manageable, and will save you some money.

    4) GF bagels suck.

    5) So do all GF bread, brownies, and cookies.

    6) GF Pretzels are $8 a bag. Yes. E-I-G-H-T.

    7) Jacob is FINALLY eating. I mean MEALS. More than one a week. This is remarkable.

    8) It feels crappy to hear that your child has a problem. It is a grieving process. You lament the things they won't be able to have. The burden of being different, and truthfully, the amount of extra work and money it is for you.

    9) But. You of COURSE do it. And do it happily because it will SAVE YOUR BABY. Save him from repeated damage to his little gut that has never worked correctly. And it will save him from pain while eating. And it will make him happy.

    10) Celiacs can eat potato chips an M&Ms. So really, it's not that bad.

    For more information onCeliac Disease or being Gluten Free, check out: http://www.celiac.com/ http://www.celiac.org/

  • Parenting: The Airline Philosophy

    Of all the parenting strategies that I have read about, tried, thrown out and fretted over, there is one that I have devised as my own that has stayed prominent in my life.

    I call it, The Airline Philosophy.

    Simply put, you know how if you are traveling on an airplane, the flight attendant gives you the little speech about flotation devices and seatbelts etc? Well, there is one thing they always emphasize, and that is that if the oxygen masks should deploy you should take care of yourself before you take care of small children and those needing assistance. The reason being, that if you put the mask on the baby first, but you collapse halfway through doing so, you are both in trouble. If you take care of you, then you can take care of someone else.

    If you, as the mother are hungry, tired, or plain old grouchy, you are not able to take care of your children to the best of your ability, because your needs are not being met. As women, I think we tend to play the martyr, and put others first. It is that exact kindness and compassion that drains us of our abilities to parent successfully.

    You do not need to eat the burnt toast (Which is a book by Teri Hatcher that discusses this exact thing), make yourself a new piece!! You do not need to skimp on your sleep to cook and clean, and you do not need to skip a shower. You need those things to feel like a human being, and therefore to parent your children.

    In my opinion, and experience you need 10-30 minutes to yourself per day. Let me repeat. TO YOURSELF. Not cleaning, or cooking, or reading stories to your children, but doing whatever it is that makes you happy. If cleaning and cooking make you happy, great. Still find something else for your personal time.

    For me, it is usually yoga. If I can't make that work, it might be Oprah on the DVR, an extra long shower, 10 pages of a book, reading blogs I like, or maybe fooling around on my computer. I carve it out, stick to it, and it works. It shows your children that you take care of yourself as well as them. That you are valuable, too.

    Let's be honest, does it happen EVERY DAY? No. But if I miss one, I can tell. The days that I don't do it, I am grouchier, more tired, more short tempered, and overall a crummier parent to my children. So I embrace the blue-suited flight attendant words of wisdom and encourage you to do the same.

    Posted Jul 09 2010, 07:54 PM by jmdinap with no comments
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  • Parenting 101: The Textbook Shortlist

    I've read a LOT of them. These are the ones to buy (and I would link to them except my Mac doesn't like the windows blog program and I can't make it work so you get the LONG url, and also I can't make it underline, sorry.)

    1) Healthy Sleep Habits: Happy Child by Mark Weisbluth

    http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0449004023

    This book made my kids sleep. It was annoying and dry, but it damn well worked. For infants. And toddlers. And parents. Just do what it says and don't ask twice.

    2) Your One Year Old by Louise Bates Ames

    http://www.amazon.com/Your-One-Year-Old-Fun-Loving-12-24-Month-Old/dp/0440506727

    They also make Your Two Year Old, Your Three Year Old etc....

    Basically, what the heck is my kid supposed to be doing, and what am I supposed to be doing about it. No, really. Not like What to Expect, because those people are not really humans who get frustrated and tired. For example in Your Four Year Old it basically says, "You should try to be with them as little as possible, they really like other people better than you and you will clash with them a lot. They should be in preschool, play dates, and daycare. It will be better for everyone in the end." Brutally honest. You have to get over how ancient they are, like how they talk about moving the ashtray out of the way of your one year old. And there was a little stint about spanking that I didn't like, but they were recommended to me by a doc, and they are my go-to books for all things behavioral.

    3) Blessings of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel

    http://www.amazon.com/Blessing-Skinned-Knee-Teachings-Self-Reliant/dp/0142196002

    It happens to focus on Jewish teachings, but don't let that steer you away if you are not Jewish. Basically, it does not preach of entitlement, and encourages you to help your children be participatory in their household, be kind to others, and be a good normal person BECAUSE YOU SHOULD BE. Not because you get a marble or earn a prize, but because that is how people act. Brilliant.

    4) The e-book The Three Day Potty Training Method by Lora Jensen

    http://www.3daypottytraining.com/

    Well, basically, it works as best as anything I could find. And I tried a TON. OF. USELESS. STRATEGIES.

    Happy reading!

  • With Apologies, and Empathy

    I am lucky enough to not have children with food allergies. We have other issues, don't get me wrong, but food allergies are not one of them. And, embarrassingly, I have made several food allergy mistakes.

    Case #1 When hosting a new playgroup at our house, I put out our basket of snacks that I regularly let my kids choose from. Included in it were granola bars, packages of cheese/peanut butter crackers, Teddy Grahams, and Goldfish (AKA baby crack). The kids were happily playing, and each meandered over to the snack table, made a choice, and continued to play. As Little N (Age 3) went over, he chose a lovely granola bar, and his mom did the faster-that-the-speed-of-light-child-running-in-the-street style lurch at him and yelled "NO!!!". Backpedaling over the crying, and startled children everywhere, she explained about his nut allergy, and pulled out his snack from home. Over compensating, I apologized profusely and took all the snacks away (half of which were lethal to him), bringing out only strawberries-much messier and more expensive for a playgroup of 6- but not deadly (on this occasion).

    Case #2 At the annual cookie exchange, I made sugar cookies. No nuts. Straight up plain sprinkled sugar cookies. As ladies were tasting, chewing, and commenting on how they taste differently from sugar cookies in the past, I reveal my secret ingredient. Almond extract instead of vanilla. Ms. L immediately puts her pate of cookies down and asks if it was imitation or not. I have no idea. Probably? That was not good enough for a woman with a severe tree nut allergy.

    Thankfully, my oversights have only happened twice, but I have since seen them happen many other times, for example once at a preschool's pot luck, and another time in overlooking how 'vegetarian' something was. As I read what others say about food allergies, and as my children become more and more involved with other children, I realize what a serious issue this is. I hope that I can be understanding and accommodating to those families that we come into contact with.

  • A Biting Time

    This has nothing to do with this month's theme of integrative medicine, or maybe it does...

    Jacob is teething. Some babies wake up one morning, and have 3, 4, or maybe 5 teeth. They are the lucky ones.

    This does not happen in our house. Teething here is more like a slow form of long term torture. First the drooling. Then the chewing. Then refusing to eat. Then eating everything, but only on the affected side. Then you go to the doctor, because of the crying. And you think, "Please GOD! Let this be an ear infection so that they can give me some medicine!" But it's not and the doctor says his gums are red and swollen.

    Awesome.

    I guess this is where a rudimentary form of integrative medicine starts. We try EVERYTHING. Motrin, Tylenol, teethers, frozen bread, frozen blueberries, frozen washcloths, teething gel, tablets, etc. You name it. The only thing I have not tried to ease the pain is whiskey. Well, let's be honest, I haven't given Jacob whiskey....

    And then a white dot! One little piece of one tooth has broken through. Bu guess what? Of the molars, there are 4. Each molar has 4 little pointy corners that must erupt. And for Jacob, each part of each tooth is grueling. So, we wait it out and snuggle and cuddle and try everything we can think of so that the little man is more comfortable while he is teething. I'm open to new suggestions!

  • Lifestyle

    I have to admit, I was very unfamiliar with the topic of integrative medicine, so I have layed low this month. I have learned a lot reading the posts of the other contributors. I appreciate that.

    The one thing I have to contribute, better late than never, I suppose, is the way that taking care of yourself is really a lifestyle choice.

    Just like on the airplane, where you have to give yourself oxygen before helping someone else, you have to take care of yourself, advocate for yourself, ask questions, and do what feels right, before you can even attempt to function for others. It is not selfish, it is self-preservation.

    It weaves through all life aspects; eating, sleeping, working, playing, fitness, relaxation. Finding a balance is the essential key to life liberty and the pursuit of happiness, no?

    When I think about how that impacts my life, the one thing I come up with for me, personally, is yoga. When I have that going on in my life, I feel better, act better towards everyone, and am proactive in making healthy choices, especially on the nutrition end of things. You can not eat a bag of potato chips as your post-yoga snack, it would completely ruin the zen.

    It is difficult however, to make drastic changes all at one time. So, for me, once I am on a roll with one thing, I am much more able to add in other things that contribute to a healthy lifestyle. The key is making it a habit, and the biggest motivation is instilling good habits into your children. I mean, really, your entire job is that in a nutshell. And in the end, everyone benefits.

  • Happy Holidays From The Other Side

    That is, from the non-Christmas side. From the Hanukkah side.

    It has definitely been interesting this year. Asher is old enough to be bedazzled by everything Christmas. EVERYTHING. Lights, Santa, wreaths, moving reindeer, trees, ornaments, TV specials etc. If you step back and take a look, there is a LOT of Christmas going on. We talk about it a lot, and who celebrates what, and why, and more lights and wow and etc....

    Now, Hanukkah is not a major Jewish holiday. Yom Kippur, Rosh Hashanah (Fall), and Passover (Spring) are the major ones. They just don't happen to fall around Christmas which is a marketing, bonanza, so Hanukkah gets a bump in importance in order to compete, if you will. And I think Jewish parents fall victim to it. Use it as a time to make sure their non-Christian children don't get slighted on the gift-getting end. Use it as a reason to spoil their kids a little. And frankly, it is easiest to explain away Christmas with the all popular, "Well, you get 8 nights of fun and presents for HAnukkah instead of just one day!"

    In addition, I have recently converted to Judaism and this is my first year officially without Christmas, even though we have not been celebrating for a while. I think that makes me hyper-sensitive to how my children might react around such a public holiday. However, we had a lovely Hanukkah. Grandma & Grandpa came, we had several nights of good food. There were presents, big and small, the dreidel game, lots of playing, a Hanukkah party at the synagogue preschool, and lighting the menorah for 8 nights (or 9 in our case as we skipped one and had to make up for it.) It is the holiday that keeps on going and going and going. But I have been worried about him feeling slighted. I loved Christmas as a child and my memories of that still hold a dear place in my heart. What kind of effect would it have on Asher, never having that?

    The answer is none. And I should have known it all along. It is the reason I converted. It is the reason Dan and I married, and decided to raise our children in the Jewish faith. It is the reason that maybe you love Christmas. Or Kwanzaa. Or that you don't need a holiday to celebrate. The reason is that it is the family that makes the holiday. It is family and tradition that make the memories. It is the family that the joy stems from. And as much as we give our parents an grandparents a hard time about how wonderful it is when everyone is together, it is true. Those are my fond memories. My family, singing Christmas carols, and now, lighting a menorah together. It is the together that makes it special. And the materialistic side that we create around it, really can't hold a candle, Hanukkah, or advent, to the impression that we make upon our children by demonstrating a loving, caring family.

    Asher proved it to me at the vet this morning. They had a tree lit up when we went in to get some dog food. He and Jacob were oogling and talking non-stop about how beautiful it was. The very nice grandma who works at the counter came out to talk to him. She chatted him up with one of the three usual things to say to a kid right now. (In case you were wondering, they are: Have you been good for Santa? What did you ask for for Christmas? and, Do you have your Christmas tree up?) She opted for the question about the tree, and he just looked at her and said, "We don't celebrate Christmas. When I grow up I want to run the beer tanks at a restaurant." (Let's come back to the beer comment another time...) But the point is, he's fine with it. And he handled it beautifully. I shouldn't have worried. And I should be thankful that he is lucky enough to be making memories just like I was.

  • Hopefully, We Will Not Be Swiney

    Just a disclaimer, and a reminder, this is just my opinion. I also would like to add that once things hit the level of hype where they have daily trailers on CNN, I stop watching and paying attention. I have a deep seeded hatred for the media and its tendency to turn things into a frenzy. It stems from living in NYC on 9/11 and actually living through the tragedy there. The media was an injustice to what was happening, and so stems my distrust.

    Anyhow.

    Swine Flu. H1N1. Frenzy. Here is my experience with this situation.

    March, 2009. Jacob is 6 months old. Dan was in bed with a flu for about 3 days. He was useless. Sick everywhere and as pathetic as I have ever seen anyone. We scratch our heads, a little late for the flu, but OK. In retrospect, he probably had it then, and we all made it through unscathed.

    Spring-ish 2009. Swine flu news.

    Summer 2009. We move. We ignore everything happening on the planet because moving with 2 children and starting a new job and selling a house is all our brains can handle.

    Early October 2009. Now it is H1N1, and I am on the email list at the preschool and emails are flying around about who is getting H1N1 and is it live or flumist or a shot or what have you.

    Late October 2009. I get the kids regular flu shots at the new pediatrician because we finally have health insurance. (Don't get me started on that)

    Later October 2009. I have a playground discussion with a few moms about where to get the H1N1 shot, because as I have said in previous posts, I do what doctors say. If we are supposed to get it, I will get it. I call the pediatrician. They don't have it. I look up the health department, they don't have it either, unless you are high risk. We are not. One day Dan calls and says his office is asking him to get it because they are health care professionals. So he gets one at Kroger. As in the grocery store. They are only doing it for health care professionals.

    Early November 2009. I read the disclaimers about who can and can not get the shots, and make a call to Asher's cardiologist. He is only allowed the shot, not the mist because of his prior heart conditions, but it does not put him in a high risk category. So.... still none available.

    Yesterday. Friends are posting on Facebook where they can get vaccines, and how long they have had to wait in line at the health department. I say to Dan, "Ok, What the heck is going on with this? Am I going to be a lunatic about it and track down some vaccines, or just go with it? Can't you help with this, Doc?" We decide to put a small amount of effort into getting it. But the lack of availability is frustrating, and I am am sure is what the media is playing on. Not to minimize the impact of the illness, but...

    Today. Dan emails me that a Duke children's clinic about 30 minutes away has some for walk ins. We have a playdate with a mom who tells me that they are giving it at well baby visits, I call his new pediatrician to make his 4 year check up appointment for December and ask if he can get it then. She says, "Well, I am opening our newest shipment right now, we haven't posted it yet, but we are having a clinic tomorrow at the office. Would you like an appointment?"

    ChaChing. Dan and the kids will be vaccinated. I will hope that is enough until I can round up some for myself. Because we all know, if mom goes down, the whole operation goes down. And that is one situation that deserves all the media hype it can get.

  • Top 10 Post-Partum Care Tips

    10) Sometimes, cereal is a meal.

    9) The answer is always, "Yes, I need help." The car is out of gas, we have no milk, can you pick up Child #1 from school, and sure he would love to stay for lunch. You would do these things for your friends, so when they offer, say yes.

    8) The answer is always , "No, I can't help you with that right now, but I would love to in a month or two or five." You do not need to bake cookies for the PTA, watch the neighbor's kids, or pet sit for your cousin.

    7) Bleeding is a great indicator of how you are doing. Light bleeding=just right. Soaking through pads= you are doing too much.

    6) You are not losing the weight right now. Get it out of your head. You are HEALING. You just made a person for nine months. If you are hungry, go ahead and have a scoop of ice cream or a piece of pizza.

    5) Water is your friend. Drink it until you want to drown. It will help with nursing, any urinary tract action, swelling, skin, and overall well being.

    4) If you HAVE to cook (and that would be because you are not following rule #9 or #1), make 3 times what you normally would, and then you have to cook 3 times less. You will eat lasagna for a lot of days, but it will be OK.

    3) Don't clean. Really. Let it go. It will be OK. Buy some clorox wipes or whatever, and rum them over the counter when the spaghetti sauce won't come off and when there are blobs of toothpaste on the counter, and then let the rest go.

    2) Sleep. I know. When? Try. Don't watch Jon & Kate, or talk to that person on the phone, or get sucked into shopping for more onesies on Mini-Boden, or uploading pictures. The birth announcements can wait another week, you can keep your stuff on the DVR for a months, but 4 AM happens every day for a LONG time.

    1) Shower every day. At least once. You can put your PJ's back on, but get in under the hot water and steam, and shower. Put the crying baby in the crib for 5 minutes and regroup. She will be fine for 5 minutes, and she will not be scarred for life, and you will feel better. MUCH MUCH better.

  • Post-Partum Care - When You Get Past 'Don't Touch Me'

    A jump ahead in post partum care, but in my opinion, this has been the most difficult.

    Post-partum contraception.

    We were lucky enough to get pregnant easily, so I was not taking any chances once I got the 'clear' from my OB. Let me back up-- I got the clear from my doctor at 6 weeks. It took a LONG LONG LONG time after that before I could think about anything else going on in the womanly regions. So don't rush it.

    But there will come a time when you are back in the swing of things and you need contraception. I have tried many, many things. The issue is, while nursing, you are very limited to basically, condoms, IUD, rings of some kind, or POP (the mini-pill, progesterone only). It is my understanding that the only hormone you can have while nursing is progesterone. It is also my un-medical opinion, that progesterone is the CRAZY hormone. I mean it is the one that gives you acne, makes your unwanted hair grow like crazy, oh, and turns you into a raving lunatic. If you are not nursing, there are more options, but these were what was offered to me:

    Condoms- let's just skip this, we've all been there.

    Rings (nuvaring for example) - I am unable to do it. I am not capable of knowing in advance when I need to deal with this.

    Mini-Pill- This is EXTREMELY sensitive time wise. You need to take it at precisely the exact time each day, or its effectiveness decreases dramatically. Also, it did not work, gave me acne, and I had horribly irregular periods.

    IUD- My only experience is with the Mirena. I heard wonders about it, and my doc raved about it, but as soon as my husband makes permanent plumbing changes I will be removing it. It makes me insane. It is like PMS on crack. It is almost as if it is an out-of-body experience. I can see myself acting like a mad-woman, I can't stop it. I like to call it Mirena-Rage. Plus, the acne is as bad as a 12 year old's. AND, I get a period every month, but it is light. Just spotting for about 5 days. Which is annoying. Too much for no protection, not enough for tampons. I know there are other types on IUD's but this one was the most effective. Supposedly after a year (which will be soon enough) the side effects decrease. The verdict is still out on that.

    My advice, and experience would be to research THOROUGHLY, and do not make any quick decisions about what you are going to use. The choices are limited, and I have yet to find a real winner.

  • One Year Vaccines

    With all the vaccine chatter going on, I just thought I would pipe in with my two cents.

    Jacob went for his one year checkup the day before his birthday. He was doing fine, and we discussed the normal things: eating (switch to whole milk- yay!!!), safety (still a little kid with a big head, so he has to stay rear facing in the car), diet (no peanuts until age three), milestones (says 3 words, and is trying to walk), and completely neurotic parental concerns (at what point do we worry about his large head? or does that just mean he has a bigger brain?).

    Then, FYI you can't actually get vaccines until they are one year of age, and not a day sooner. Why? It is because of school records, I am told. They can't get the chicken pox vaccine until they are one, or the schools won't accept it. Huh.

    Not an issue, we went back the next day for a quick nurse visit to get our shots. Jacob has handled them beautifully. A little sleepy, no other symptoms.

    Thank goodness for that.

  • On One

    Jacob will be 1 in a few days.

    This is my second, and probably last baby to have a first birthday. It is a cliche, but truly bittersweet.

    The sweetness: I am delighted at what a little human he is. He is laughing, playing peek a boo, taking steps, saying, "That! Mama! Dada!" He shakes his head no, and cracks up every time Asher comes near him. He snuggles, loves books, and is never going to give up his bottle. He naps twice a day, and sleeps all night. He likes to eat meatballs, challah, pizza, goldfish, fish sticks, grapes, cheese turkey, mac & cheese, peas, hummus, crackers, & bread, but dislikes sweets and most veggies. Without sounding conceited, he adores me. He lights up when I walk into the room, and he reaches for me and smiles.

    The bitter: He is getting older. He is going to turn into a toddler who walks and never stops talking. He will one day look at me and go, "NO! I need my PRIVACY!!!", as my 3-year-old does. He is done with baby food, done with his cute little baby outfits, and done with most things baby. I no longer get to say, " I just had a baby, and that is why I have this poochy gut hanging out."

    He is turning into a kid, and while I love him more and more each day for the little man he is becoming, I am sad for the baby I am losing.

    Posted Sep 21 2009, 01:45 PM by jmdinap with no comments
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  • Vaccines: Get The Facts (Part 2)

    As an addendum to my soapbox from the previous vaccine post, I would like to add a few things. And by adding them, I realize I am toeing the line of murky waters in a current political debate. However, I think that my family has a unique perspective having been on both sides of this spectrum, and this is my opinion.

    1) My husband is a physician. He gets paid by insurance companies. He has medical school loans to pay off which rival our mortgage payments, so we are certainly comfortable, but not living the high life as one immediately thinks when they think 'physician'. We rely on Medicare, Medicaid, BCBS, Aetna, United, etc, to pay his salary. Over the past few years, the reimbursements to physicians have decreased. For example, an office visit he used to bill $75 for is now being billed at $60. That decrease trickles over to surgeries, procedures, etc.... We feel the burden of the insurance companies and government cutting the payments to the physicians.

    2) Because of the surgery our son had, we spent months and months paying off medical bills to physicians. M-O-N-T-H-S. We feel the burden of being the consumer purchasing health insurance. We have private insurance that costs about another mortgage payment each month, and it was not enough to cover the surgery with high deductibles and out of pocket expenses.

    3) In addition, the malpractice insurance physicians are required to carry is astronomically expensive. It is the reason that many parts of the country don't have enough OB-GYNs. The risk of getting sued as a medical professional is very high whether or not the suit is justified. The expense of defense against any and every type of lawsuit gets passed on in the form of high malpractice premiums. AND in addition to that, the 'jury of your peers' is not a jury of medically trained professionals. Just people like you and I, often requiring attorneys to try to simplify medical justifications to those not experienced in making those decisions. Now, certainly malpractice happens and should be litigated accordingly, but the fear of unnecessary lawsuits is very real, and very expensive to physicians. Additionally there are many expensive (often unnecessary) tests ordered so doctors can protect themselves from potential future litigation, driving up the cost of healthcare.

    4) Regarding vaccines, as long as the data linking vaccines to autism are weak, and vaccines are still strongly recommended by the AAP, it is in the patient's and physician's best interest to comply. The data supporting the safety of vaccines are much stronger. It is unfortunate that care is often determined with insurance companies in mind, but it is a reality for providers and consumers. Doctors won't get reimbursed for services not covered, and you will bear the burden of the bill. Thankfully, most pediatric vaccines are covered under routine care, and most pediatricians will tell you they are NOT a money-maker. Additionally, they are reimbursed quite poorly for routine preventive care. If it is something you are concerned about, then most offices have supporting documentation of their policies, procedures and justifications available to you. Certainly a good pediatrician will take the time to discuss options and outcomes with you, and your job as a consumer of healthcare is to find someone you are comfortable with. Someone who works with your needs, while following the guidelines. Finally, it is well-known that whatever the risk of vaccines, the risks of re-emergence of the diseases they prevent are far far greater.

    5) You should not blindly do what your doctor says. But a good physician will discuss things with you and recommend treatments in a way that educates and comforts, rather than demands and dictates. The world of medicine is a complex one, to be sure. Most doctors, however, will tell you that however complex their world, the interest and well-being of the patient is by far the most important thing....and they swear an oath to protect that notion.

    No one goes into medicine saying, "I want to be stuck in the middle of private insurance companies, pharmaceutical charges, government regulations, and patients who get their information from Wikipedia." But that is what happens, and those people who have spent 7+ years after college trying to learn how to take care of us, are victims.

  • Vaccines: Get The Facts

    I am not a doctor. I live with one. I supported one through medical school. He is smart. He is an ophthalmologist. He went to college for 4 years. He went to medical school for 4 years. He did 1 year of an internal medicine internship. He did 3 more years of training to complete his ophthalmology residency. He does Lasik and cataract surgery, operates on children, treats diabetes, and is a Board Certified MD, and Fellow of the American Academy of Ophthalmology. He loves his children. He would not do anything to harm them. I have a Master's degree in Special Education. I have taught many, many children with autism and other disabilities. I have sat with parents as they have searched and searched for answers to unlock the mysteries of their vacant children, reaching for a cause, and looking for a place to point a finger. When at age 2, they claim that their child disappeared after their vaccines. I have never read a case report of an autistic child that supported that fact. When I asked my pediatrician about that happening, she assured me that in the 40+ collective number of years of all of the physicians in their group, they have never met a child who did not show signs of delays before they were vaccinated. We vaccinate our children. We defer to the people who are trained and educated about taking care of our children's health. We realize the benefit to eradicating measles, smallpox, polio, and mumps. We have a child with a congenital heart defect. One who has had open heart surgery. It is a huge recurrent medical issue that I hope none of you ever have to deal with. We educate ourselves, we speak to people who are educated about our son's problems, like cardiologists, cardiothoracic surgeons, and pediatricians, and we make medical decisions based on medical recommendations. We would not base decisions about the health of our son's heart based on pop culture, unsupported evidence, blogs, message boards, or studies that had not been replicated and reviewed. The American Academy of Pediatrics puts out a vaccination schedule for the good and welfare of our children and the general population. Visit their website (http://www.cispimmunize.org/) for your information. Allow the experts to make the decisions. And then visit Autism Speaks, the March of Dimes, or sites like these to support families and children who are suffering.
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